Hayley Holt regains her happiness after overcoming her grief
Hayley Holt is having happier times with her partner Josh Tito after coming through the heartache and trauma over the past 18 painful months.
TVNZ sports reporter Hayley Holt said that 2021 “was a revelation of true happiness” after she recovered from grief over the tragic loss of her son.
Life is better and brighter for Holt and her partner Josh Tito after a painful 18 months, which saw the couple lose their stillborn boy Frankie Tai on April 25 last year when Hayley was six months pregnant .
“2021 has been a revelation, really, in a blissful way,” said Holt Woman’s day.
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“It showed me how I can feel happiness after tragedy and grief, which really heightened my feelings.”
A little over a year later, the couple celebrate the recent purchase of their new home in Warkworth, an hour north of Auckland.
The pair were originally considering buying in Auckland, but high house prices pushed them further.
They have a lot of familiar and supportive faces in Warkworth, where Hayley, Robin and Murray’s parents also live, as well as the extended family.
Her newfound sense of happiness made Holt feel that it is important for people to understand that it is possible to move on in life after suffering a heartbreaking loss.
“A lot of people would say to me, ‘You are so strong. I can’t believe you’ve been through this, ”she said.
“But I just had to do it. You cannot choose not to.
With many Kiwi women going through similar experiences, Holt wishes to encourage others to embrace and welcome all forms of help and support to overcome their trauma.
“I went to the consultation, accepted all the help I needed from my friends, and did all the things I needed for my grief.”
Switch from TVNZ co-hosting Breakfast and the return to sports coverage over the past year has also made life more enjoyable and manageable for Holt, who says “with sports I can go to work and laugh”.
Holt and Tito’s relationship has changed dramatically since they first met as friends in 2018, before starting to see each other a year later.
She had not revealed the father when the happy news of her pregnancy became public. The couple initially agreed that they would be the baby’s co-parents, but after spending more time together throughout the pregnancy and the Covid-19 lockdown, they fell in love.
“Before we had Frankie we had him to hold together and then we had the grieving process that held us together and now we have to hold on together. That’s wonderful.”