‘Bachelorette’ Katie Thurston talks about overcoming past sexual assault
After asking all the men to share a personal story they are not proud of, Katie wanted to open up in return. “What I’m going to tell you, a lot of people don’t know, including my own mother. I know you see me today as this very HIV positive woman who is very confident, but she wasn’t always there. . Ten years ago, it was New Years Eve, I had been drinking and I was in a situation where there was no consent, âKatie courageously shared.
âIt’s not something I wish on anyone,â Katie said. âI denied what happened. So much so that I tried to form a relationship with him because I didn’t want to believe what really happened. And when it didn’t work, for years i had a very poor relationship with sex. i didn’t want to have sex, which affects the relationship. i didn’t like talking about sex. and it took me a long time to get to where I am now by being open and comfortable talking about it and loving myself and accepting things that I can’t control anymore. “
Katie went on to say that she has come a long way over the past decade and learned how important consent and communication are. âHow important it is not to make someone feel guilty for not having sex with them enough, to make them feel guilty for not having sex with them in general. And so that’s somethingâ¦ really. important thing that happened in my life which in some ways has really shaped me to be exactly who I am today, âsaid Katie.
Later in her confessional, Katie admitted, âWhat I shared with the band today is something I never really talked about. For a long time, I felt responsible for being too drunk, too irresponsible, too stupid. But it’s not my fault, because consent is important, and I didn’t give it that night. “